GENDERLESS: Last night at our meetup we talked about a “new” term for gender non-identification. Some young people want to do away with any description of LGBQT… etc. Would this be good or bad? First of all wearing a badge identifying your “sexual preferences” seems unnecessary anyway. We have two physical sexes despite Caitlyn’s confusion, it is male and female. What you choose to do in your bedroom with your sex is your affair and no one else’s! It does not take away your physical sex, that was given at birth despite what you choose to do with it. Surgery can make it appear that way but your genetics still tell what you are. So, as I see it, we each have one of two genders; however, that does not negate what we chose to do with that gender, MFLGBQT ?
GIVE LIFE A CHANCE: As for non-identifying gender boundaries and making it a spectrum, this seems to lead to confusing practices like parents deciding their 7 year old boy is really transgender and “helping” him transition. See the National Geographic cover picture –> https://tinyurl.com/gktes3p (here Nat Geo explains why they did the right thing…) It seems to me that children have to figure things out on their own sexuality and be given time to do so not have someone start feeding them hormone shots or surgical “fixes.” A good reference to this understanding is “Psycho Cybernetics” by Maxwell maltz. Read this to see why surgery is not a solution for children and probably even adults! The childhood practice of gender identification with toys, activities, clothes etc is valuable in that it helps children learn who they are. Clothing, activities toys that are gender specific help what has always been normal development (even in prehistoric times). After age 18 or so, after lots of experience, if someone really feels they are LBQT, then God bless them, and may they not be unhappy in their choice or abused for it!
SUICIDE: Taking away boundaries by erasing names does not make sense, it makes confusion. Suicide rates tell us about people’s unhappiness with themselves. It is not the responsibility of society to love and accept any and all spectrum of deviations, surgical modifications or personal choices. It is probably society’s responsibility to be civil and respectful of differences; however, not something to be forced on children in school. The feedback (good or bad) from other children, in childhood, is essential to developing and choosing identification. Children’s play is not just learning coordination, it is role playing that helps them define themselves! Physical violence or social media stalking … is NOT acceptable. I am not talking about this. Plants and people need night as well as sunshine to grow. We need to lose and win at sports, not get a reward for showing up.
PRIDE DOES NOT NEED SURGERY – THE NEW NORMAL?: Caitlyn Jenner’s remark about being the “new normal” is nonsense. A normal is something that is common and expected by society or the rest of the animal kingdom. Pride is evidence in the posture of a lion as seen on the left here. Caitlyn is a surgical aberration. Dr Maxwell Maltz described, in his first surgical experience, doing a nose job for a lady, who believed she would be beautiful after a nose job. When he was proudly unveiling her new beauty she remarked “I don’t see any difference.” This was because she was unhappy with who she was and the nose was just justification. By contrast at a party one evening he offered to correct a facial scar for a man who had been cut by a dueling sword. The man was offended and refused. He said, “I earned this scar dueling! Why should I have it removed?” His scar made him beautiful. I think Bruce Jenner should be watched for suicide tendencies. He cannot love himself if he was willing to pay so much to be mutilated.
SELF RESPECT: Civility in adulthood is, I believe, an underlying premise of America as a melting pot. I believe that harassment of sexual choice must stop. However, suicide rates would best decline if people were inwardly truly proud of their choices. Gay Pride, a beautiful concept, needs to figure this out for their brothers and sisters. If that can become a reality, society will not have to change to meet this need, it will simply become a reality. I have known a good number of proud, special, sucessful “gay” people in my life and my life is that much richer for this experience. Many of today’s gay people are special, especially the ones who learn to love themselves despite the childhood cruelties we all suffer (gay or not). There is wealth in diversity. Who is stupid enough to strive for poverty?
ABOUT TRANSGENDER SUICIDE RATES: http://www.vocativ.com/culture/lgbt/transgender-suicide/